I've decided that I am frightened to death to raise a teen-age girl. And not only that, but it's starting to scare me to raise a pre-teen girl! Now I know how my parents felt. However, I do feel unfortunately that todays society is making it almost impossible! Are we suppose to hover over our children and shield them from society? It's inevitable that they are going to be exposed to something somewhere because we as parents can't be there every second of every day. I guess it is our jobs as parents to be there for them to answer questions and give them the guidance in the right direction. All we can do is hope and pray that they will be good kids and be the better example to those around them.
This is all to preface a conversation Rielyn had with her good friend in the car the other day. It started innocently about how there was a boy who like this girl...and then Rielyn said "this boy in our class hugged this other girl because he was in love with her." Not so bad...I can handle that. Then, Rielyn's friend followed with "I know this girl Jodi who had sex with this boy!" WHAT??? I immedietly stopped her and told her it was not appropriate for a 6 yr. old to use that word. Was I out of place?? Seriously, I couldn't believe my ears! I spoke with her mother about it and she said she heard it from her school. Wow. Rielyn's friend is under the impression right now that it means hugging and kissing. Which some people would say is okay for her to think that, but what happens when someone comes along and corrects her and she learns (at 6) what it really means? My thinking is, they shouldn't even KNOW that word right now! Do we have to give our 6 yr old kids an age appropriate "talk" now, or just leave it as is and just say we don't say that word? This has been pretty disturbing for me...I even had a nightmare that Rielyn got pregnant at age 6 and had a baby. I think I'm going to call my parents...
5 years ago
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I nuderstand your shock, raising 2 girls and keeping them pure is going to be a challenge. You can't keep them in a bubble, but I sure wish we could. Why can't they just be little innocent kids forever? I learned at the parenting class the church had that kids are exposed to sex between the ages of 8-11. I just about came unglued! Abby is almost 8! I think we just have to answer their questions honestly and age appropriatly like you said. They don't need to know all the details at 6. I tell Abby that she cannot use a word that she doesn't know the full/ correct meaning of. So far, that has worked for us. I'll help you, if you help me! It really takes a village!
"I think I'm going to call my parents..."
Best idea ever....I figure my parents raised me and I am not completely screwed up so they might have some good advice.
Damon and I are locking our girls up until they are 30. We don't look forward to the tween and teen years.
Yikes! Now I'm scared too.
I think it is very scary. At OC in our education classes they said second greade was the time to have sex talks. Yikes! They have good books. I think it is important to have talks esp to put our Christian values one it. I am nervous with boys just was well since they are so visually stimulated. I know Brenda G had a list of books she listed once in the bulletin
Have already had the discussion here. It is true Second grade is when the word hits and question start to fly. We take it one day at a time and lots of prayer. It is working so far with us. And I truly believe the more visual you can be when they are in school the better off you will be. You will know who they are hanging out with and they will respect you more and come to you when they have serious questions. Use your resources...ie, christian family and friends.
Holy cow! I'm going to start hoping I'm having a boy. I didn't know it started that young!
I love this blog post. I told Aric that he needed to read it. (Which he did and then told me, "That's a really good blog." Sage learned the word sexy and tried to use it a few times. I thought that was bad! I kept waiting the whole time I was pregnant for her to ask how the baby got in there. I was happy to not have to figure out that one.
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